Example of internet dating ad
If the Internet is good for anything—and, actually, it’s good for lots of things—it’s good for finding a needle in a haystack.
Whether you’re hankering after a pistol grip for that vintage Hasselblad single reflex camera, or want to learn all the lyrics to R. M.’s “It’s the End of the World as We Know it,” the World Wide Web has made tracking down and securing even the most obscure objects your heart desires a lot easier.
If you met an attractive man at a party, you would be showing him your best side and flirting up a storm. For some women that sounds horrid but in real life we do it all the time.
You are literally marketing yourself to the male population online.
He won't see the scene exactly like you do, but he is capable of visualizing the story you've created with him in it. If he can picture himself in your story, more than likely he will write to you. He doesn't need to know everything about you in this first introduction. Online, you have fewer than 10 seconds to get his attention before he moves on. Try making your profile title catchy, using activities you're involved with to create your online name. Little things like typos can be enough to make men quickly move on to someone else's profile. I wrote things about making love on a beach with my soul mate. Men have told me they see it in every woman's profile. Particularly, don't brag about your out of this world looks. Try not to make demands in your profile about salaries and how you'd like to be entertained at the most expensive restaurants in your area.
Writing the online dating first email is the area where I made the biggest mistakes for the longest period of time when I was dating online.
There's nothing sexier to a man than your confidence. Come up with ideas or small stories that paint a picture of the two of you that a man can imagine himself in. When you go to a party and you meet someone who keeps saying, "I do this, I like that, I am this," don't you get bored? One big pet peeves for many men is horrible spelling and grammar in profiles. It gives men the wrong impression and encourages those you probably aren't interested in to write to you.
When you feel good about yourself, you will become a male magnet. You want to use a scene like this to capture the interest of a man. You might get stuck with that person for a long time unless someone rescues you. Between your smile, a great picture and a goofy or clever name, you've got a chance to stand out from everyone else and be noticed. You can write your profile in Microsoft Word or other document programs so that it highlights any mistakes, and then cut and paste the paragraphs you've written to your profile online. I want you to know that in my 40s, I made some of the dumbest mistakes when it came to profiles. Leave out the words, "I'm looking for my soul mate" from your profile.
Bottom line: a dating profile—your first impression—is “sell copy,” and you’re the product being marketed.
The trick for you as “Boy” to get the biggest bang for your buck is to optimize your pitch so it will best appeal to Girl’s brain with content that directly tags her where Cupid lives.